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Why are break ups so hard?

Up until about three years ago, I was in a long-term relationship. 


It had lasted, on and off, for ten years, and whenever we were together, it was the most intense relationship I’ve ever had. But it was a bad relationship, based on false hopes and promises of a better life, while giving me nothing much but sadness, anger, and mistreatment. I became messed up in body and mind, and I was pulled away from my friends, family, and interests. 


Finally, I realized that the better life I’d been promised would never happen, and I ended the relationship forever. My life is better for it, but I can’t deny that some of the bad effects continue to linger.


My relationship was with my diet.



All week long, inside the Sisterhood of Healthy Living, we’ve been going through a diet break up.  10 days and 10 steps to learning how to end this bad relationship so that you can start to have a healthy relationship with food again.  


Being on a diet is like being in a bad relationship. 

  • Diets lure you in with the promise of great things. 
  • Diets are unkind and tell you that you’re lazy, ugly, and have no self-control, but you don’t notice, because diets disguise this unkindness as care for you and your well-being. 
  • Diets cause you to withdraw from other aspects of your life, such as spending time with friends and family. 
  • Diets force you to live your life as they want you to because, by controlling every aspect of your eating, they are controlling a significant portion of your daily hours. 
  • But, perhaps most significantly, diets are scary to give up, because the idea of being without them is terrifying.

I’ll be completely honest and tell you that the idea of breaking up with dieting was scary at first.  I believed that I’d never be healthy if I wasn’t dieting.  I believed I wasn’t healthy unless my weight reflected a specific number.  


One thing I’ve learned over the past two years is that your weight has absolutely NOTHING to do with your health.  When I was at my “fittest” and “skinniest” I was diagnosed with 2 autoimmune diseases.  For six months, I was the sickest I had ever been in my whole life.  When I started diving into researching why I got so sick and how I could heal my body, I wash shocked to discover that years of abusing my body with yo-yo dieting probably had a lot to do with it.  


Have you been part of the challenge?  If not, I encourage you to come on over and check it out.  For 10 days, look at the facts.  Start to look at intuitive eating and see if it’s a better option for you.  If not, you can always go back to dieting (unfortunately, it’s not going anywhere).


Hope to see you inside the Sisterhood of Healthy Living as we continue to #DitchTheDiet



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