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5 Strategies to Create the Life You Want

I’m a firm believer that self-care is an essential part of a well rounded healthy lifestyle. I love that the conversation around health is changing and moving in a more holistic and sustainable direction. Join me as I interview Anza Goodbar about how she incorporates self care into her daily routine and how she teaches her clients strategies to live the life they really want.

But before I go on and on about why self-care is important, first let’s define it.


Self-care is the practice of taking time to do activities that nurture your mind, body and/or spirit. Some common examples include: reading, taking a bath, lighting candles, coloring, going for a walk. But there’s no wrong answers really.

Self-care is about intentionally taking time to care for yourself in whatever way suits you and nurtures you.


When you can take good care of yourself you can really show up and be present in your life. I’m sure you can think back to a time (maybe it’s right now) where you were running around doing everything for everyone else 24/7. You probably weren’t sleeping well and maybe the exhaustion spiked your food cravings. Maybe you stopped exercising or maybe you over exercised. At these times, we tune out the signals telling us we need to slow down.

Often, what happens is eventually you’ll burn out. When you’re physically and emotionally exhausted, you just can’t do good work, period, even when you’re doing what you love.

Taking breaks is vital for restoring energy. That goes for creative energy, too.


1. Drink Plenty of Water

Your body has a perfectly designed natural detoxification system. Drinking water will keep you mentally on point. Dehydration can cause brain fog and headaches. If you get that afternoon drag wanna crawl under your desk and snooze feeling, try a big glass of H20 before you try the Starbucks drive thru.

2. Make Sure You Get Enough Sleep

Sleep as a self-care activity, it changes everything.  It allows you to restore your adrenals and drastically improve my mental functioning and recall. Adults should aim for 7-9 hours of sleep per night. As we age, sleeping needs tend to decrease, but it’s still essential for proper healing to take place. Inadequate sleep can lead to drowsiness, fatigue, decreased concentration, impaired memory, reduced stress tolerance, mood changes, irritability, muscle tension, and lowered immunity, among others.

3. Hike, Dance, or do Pilates (my fav)

Whether you need to exercise more often or just want to shake up your regular routine, choose activities that motivate you to exercise consistently. Take an outdoor yoga class. Sign up for a 5K race. Hire a personal trainer. Try your hand at Tai Chi. Buy a Pilates DVD to do at home. Burton advises adding an element of fun, like having dance parties in the living room with your kids or going roller skating.

4. Get Connected

Don’t let your busy schedule squeeze out time for family and friends. Swap date nights with friends or neighbors. Take turns watching each other’s kids so you can spend time with your spouse.  Have play dates with other moms.  The kids play and the moms connect.  It’s a win-win!  Schedule a one-Saturday-morning-a-month coffee date with your friends. Make it a goal to invite neighbors over for dinner at least once a month—and plan on pizza and a movie with everyone’s kids, so you don’t feel the need to full-on “entertain.”

5. Prioritize Your Time

It’s not enough to want to meet your goals. Maintaining your priorities (and remembering that YOU are one of them) is definitely challenging in the midst of a busy life, BUT IT CAN BE DONE. Keeping yourself on your priority list is essential to living your best life. The difference between surviving and THRIVING is huge.


It’s not. Seriously it isn’t. It’s an important aspect of your health. When you’re well rested and seen as a priority (by YOU), then you can be better in pretty much all areas of life. It’s really all about your energy. That goes for your energy to physically show up and be engaged, but also your emotional energy. Self care is a way to recharge your batteries.


Whether you take a day for yourself every week or incorporate some kind of self care practice each day it doesn’t matter. What does matter is how you feel and whether you can make your practice sustainable.

Different activities and strategies will work for different people, but have fun while you try new things out and document what really makes a difference.

Anza Goodbar is a serial entrepreneur. She has owned several multi-million dollar companies over the course of her career. Her most recent adventure includes becoming a certified coach, trainer and speaker. She serves solo-preneurs and family owned businesses through 1:1 and group coaching, online classes and strategy sessions. Her expertise is in creating business systems, leadership development, entrepreneurial mindset, strategizing, intentional living and goal setting.



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